Imagine how horrible you would feel if you found out that someone you care about is saying terrible made-up things about you online. Now imagine that “someone” is a close family member. Like your son. We would be absolutely devastated!
It is every parent’s nightmare to find out that their children are lying about them on the world wide web. And that nightmare came true for redditor u/TraumatisedKid12021. In a very candid post on the AITA subreddit, mom shared how he dealt with his 20-year-old daughter after checking out the TikTok videos she uploads. She has taken drastic measures to try to correct this behavior.
Scroll down for the full story in the words of the author, plus see how the internet, Pandas, reacted. Who do you think she was wrong here? What would you have done in this case? What do you think is the best way forward? Share your thoughts and opinions in the comments.
Some parenting challenges are much more difficult to overcome than others
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A mom turned to the AITA community to ask if she was wrong to punish her daughter for lying about her on TikTok
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There is no “perfect” parent. There are only parents who do their best to grow and improve as people, for the sake of their children. Redditor u/TraumatisedKid12021, the author of the post, pointed out that she in no way thinks she’s a “perfect” mother.
She detailed that her adult daughter has no job, no studies at all, and feels her parents are to blame for her “trauma.” It’s hard to come to any conclusions about how traumatized her daughter may or may not be without getting her side of her story.
However, based solely on information provided by her mother, she appears to be attributing “trauma” to situations that appear to be non-traumatic at all. At the same time, editors who read the story noted that her daughter could likely benefit from going to therapy. Family counseling can be incredibly helpful in situations like this – everyone can get on the same page and start unraveling what’s really going on here.
Some members of the AITA community believe there is a serious law case underway here. As we wrote recently on Bored Panda, an antidote to entitlement while growing up is to play and socialize a lot with kids your own age. When you’re wired to settle arguments and settle differences, virtually on your own without adult supervision, you begin to realize how valuable your ability to communicate well, compromise on decisions, and collaborate with others is.
The internet and all the high tech gadgets that we use in our daily lives are definitely here to stay. It is our responsibility not to let them consume our lives and those of our children. However, telling your kids that they can’t be online is a tough challenge to deal with. Dr. Liz Donner explained to Bored panda before find what to replace screen time it can be a problem.
“A screen is very appealing and can keep a child entertained for hours while their parents are busy doing other things. Many parents let it run wild because they feel the screen is harmless or even educational for their child’s developing brain,” she said.
“Limiting screen time increases the amount of valuable real-life skill development. Babies require actual human interaction to enhance their social skills and even motor development. They must learn to understand real human facial expression, body language, tone of voice, and mutual communication skills,” Dr. Donner told us.
“Screen-free interaction with your kids doesn’t have to be anything special. Reading them a book as early as 6 months of age has been shown to boost their reading and language skills later in life. Hands-on playtime will teach them social interaction and motor skills that are essential for their healthy development. Finally, we find that less screen time in childhood corresponds to lower rates of ADHD by age 7.
Most Internet users thought mom was right to react that way
However, some readers felt that everyone was to blame for the whole family drama